(A note from Pam Heward: I knew Brii was special the moment I met her. She radiates warmth, beauty, and intuitiveness. Over the past few years she has shared her dreams and challenges with me and, every time, I say to her “you need to share this with others!” She is a gifted writer and her insights into human behavior are amazing. Luckily for all of us she agreed to share – so please read, enjoy and comment. Thank you!)
The ability to take risks is directly connected to the ability to succeed, and ultimately create a life that makes you truly happy. Of course, there are many other pieces to that age-old puzzle, but none of them can fall into place without that first action step – that leap into the unknown. No matter who you are, there is only ever one reason that any of us hesitate to take the risk: FEAR.
Yep. I said the “f” word.
I want to talk about fear because it is sneaky. It lurks in the shadows as you rationalize 1,000 reasons why you can’t quit your secure job or start your dream business. Fear oozes through the cracks of all the excuses you’ve made for not asking your boss for the promotion or the raise. It creeps around, arm in arm with your Gremlin Voice, poking holes in your big ideas and most sacred dreams. Fear often comes in evasive packaging – disguised as practicality, sensibility, caution, security, rationality, stability, and many other names that are not only socially acceptable, but are often encouraged.
It is high time that this type of fear be dragged out into the light and seen for the culprit that it truly is. It is so easy to allow these fear based thoughts and feelings to direct our most critical career and life decisions. As a matter of fact, I just caught the little monster this week, gremlin and all, chipping away at my confidence as a writer. It crept up on me slowly and I almost didn’t notice until it was too late. Editing delays, content delays, even technical delays (i.e.: computer problems… give me a break!). In the end, I realized that as I continue to pursue that which truly has meaning in my life, I will continue to encounter choices that my subconscious will perceive as “Risky”. It’s just the way I’m wired.
I also discovered that this particular fear (the one that keeps us snuggly and warm in our comfort zone, the one that doesn’t want us to really go for it) is kind of a wimp. Once you expose it and call its bluff, you will send it running for cover – leaving in its wake, YOU. And your true strength. It can be exhilarating! And it can give you the power to push forward, through any obstacle.
Sometimes, just knowing that it will be worth it in the end is all the reason you need to begin.
All risks turn out for the better. It may not be the best for you, but it will be the best for someone else. Always take risks. You’re only here because of the risks someone else took.” — Amanda, 9 years old (adopted at birth)
Doing the “Work Before The Work” and Finding Your Dream Career – Podcast
What a great show with Mark Lewis and The Empowerment Team. We talked about how to find your Dream Career and how doing the “work before the work” is where you begin.
- Joanne joined us and shared her personal story of landing her dream job after attending one of my workshops – very inspiring!
- We touched on how to deal with those negative and limiting thoughts in your head.
- We also answered the ominous question so many career transitioners have: “Now what am I going to do?”
Making a career change is a moment of opportunity! Discover this whole new approach to Career Transition.
Take a listen to this show and discover why now is the time to approach your career in a whole new way.
Grab a cup of coffee and click here to listen – look for the show on the dropdown list on the podcast!
I’d like to thank Mark Lewis of The Empowerment Team for having us. Mark is a delightful, masterful host, fun to listen to and empowering to us all!!
A common reason my clients come to me for help with their career transition is they feel “Stuck”. They know they want to take the next step in their career and life but have no idea where to start.
They have experienced success in their life in the past and they are actively working on their next career chapter through activities such as:
- Attending career events
- Searching online for new career possibilities
- Working their resumes, LinkedIn pages, and other online sites
- Getting new certifications, education, and training
So then what’s the deal? Why are they stuck? The answer lies within! The culprit? That dialogue going on in their own heads.
- What if I am no longer relevant?
- What if I pursue a new career and I don’t like it?
- What if I can’t earn what I earned in the past?
- What if I commit to something and it doesn’t work out?
- What if my age is a factor and no one is willing to talk about it directly?
- What if I try and start my own business and it doesn’t work out?
- What if I am not willing to put in the same amount of time I did with my career in the past?
These questions and others can be absolutely paralyzing.
How can you make a decision and move forward in your life with these concerns whirling around in your head? The answer: Change the dialogue in your head.
Stop the “What if” questions and let go of the FOMO (fear of missing out) mindset. None of us has a crystal ball telling us how the future will play out.
Start by clarifying what your minimum standards for your new career and life, things like:
- Minimum earnings you are willing to accept
- Career choice standards: things like hours you will work; how far will you commute…. etc.
- What are you passionate about and would be willing to put the time energy and effort into?
- Who do you know that can help you with advice, introductions and support?
I also recommend that you begin with short term goals. What will you accomplish this week?
For example: you can set a goal to contact 3 people you know and write a preliminary list of your actual monthly expenses.
If possible, discuss your week with someone whose brain you trust. This is crucial since so many people feel isolated during this transition and having someone to talk to and process with makes a world of difference.
Werner von Braun
As we get ready to celebrate and spend time with family and friends, I find myself reflecting on the past year and asking myself — “What are you thankful for?”
I’d like to share my thoughts with you:
- I am thankful for the things I don’t know yet. It is motivating and exciting to know that in the year ahead I will have puzzles to solve, challenges to overcome, and lessons to learn.
- I am thankful for the people in my life now and the one’s I haven’t met yet. I know that expanding my connections expands me. (P.S. some of these people will prove to be challenging and frustrating. This is ok. Either way I will learn and grow from them.)
- I am thankful for early morning epiphanies. They don’t all pan out but it’s great to wake up full of ideas.
- I am thankful for the doubters, naysayers, and doomsayers. Without them we would have no one to prove wrong!
- I am thankful for my Pollyanna attitude. I strive to see the best in others and will not apologize for this! Do I get hurt sometimes? I am happy to report hardly ever!! I just think it is a better way to live your life!
- I am thankful for those disciplined, accomplished people out there who remind me that I am a work in progress and that they can be role models for me as I strive to be a more disciplined, accomplished person.
- I am thankful for the unplanned events in my life. I have been thrown into life transition which, at the time, felt overwhelming and defeating. As I look back at these events I realize that they were all opportunities to reinvent myself and invite new and wonderful people into my life.
What are you thankful for in your life? How can you begin to see your past experiences and present opportunities from a Box Free perspective? The possibilities are endless!!
Our cornerstone event is happening
April 30, 2016!
9 am – 12 pm
Waddell & Reed Financial Services
7001 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 2035
Scottsdale, AZ 85223
What would happen if you had no fear? Box Free Minds is about releasing fear, assumptions and blocks so that your thoughts can become Box Free! Pamela Heward, Founder and Certified Career Transition Coach, employs learning strategies, techniques, technical basics, insights and much more to help you do the “work before the work” – you will gain a higher level of confidence in who you are, identify where your passions lie, and present yourself to employers with clarity and strength. Before your resume, before your job search and before you go on a single interview – THIS is your critical “work before the work”!
As a Certified Transition Coach, Pam has helped over 2,500 clients find their passion and take their career and lives to the next level. Please join Pam for this interactive workshop that will challenge your thinking and help you reconnect with the infinite possibilities within you! You will learn the 8 Mind Shifts for Box Free Thinking and how to create a new path and a new career based on what you truly want – and what it takes to achieve it.
The “work before the work” is the foundation for achieving your professional goals, whether it is finding a new job, career or starting a new business. Through this interactive, fun experience, Pam will help you:
- Identify what you love and what you are good at
- Become a “stand out” candidate in any situation: interviews, networking, social media profiles
- Show you how taking the time to shift your approach to your career will clarify your job search journey and get you the career and life you love!
- Meet others and connect, share, support and collaborate
The strategies used are the culmination of years of experience helping others to achieve lasting fulfillment. Don’t waste another moment living someone else’s idea of a “successful” life. Learn how to make profound changes in your life AND receive a FREE 30 minute personal coaching session with Pam valued at $75.00.
Plan to share, brainstorm, and uncover what is possible when you chip away at what blocks you from having a career and life you love.
We hope to see you there!
(Pssst – Want to save up to $20.00 on registration? Join us on Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn – we will be sharing discount codes over the next few weeks!)
Questions, call Pam at 602-821-3966
Register Today to Reserve Your Seat!